Friday, July 31, 2020

SHIKHANDI AND THE OTHER TALES THEY DON'T TELL YOU by Devdutt Pattanaik - A Book Review


‘All things queer are also part of nature' 

I had the golden opportunity to read 'Shikhandi and the other tales they don't tell you.' It was indeed a wonderful book and here is what i have discovered..... 

Who is Shikhandi?

Amba = Shikhandi (reborn as Shikhandi)


 Amba was the daughter of King of Kashi who wanted to marry a man called Shalva but she and her other two sisters are abducted by a warrior called Bhisma. Bhisma abducted the three sisters for his half-brother Vichitravirya who was unable to find a suitable wife for himself. Amba pleaded to go back to Shalva and was allowed to return but neither Shalva nor her father accepted her back into their respective families. 

Amba then returned to Bhisma with her marriage proposal but he had taken a wow of celibacy. He insulted her and shunned her away. Later Amba pleaded and prayed to immortal Gods, Sage and Kings but none came to her rescue except ‘Shiva’ who gave her a boon that she would be the reason of Bhisma’s death but only in her next life. To end her suffering Amba invoked fire and leapt into it.

In her next life Amba was born as Shikhandi the daughter of King Drupada, raised as a man and gets married as a man to a woman. In the end at the battle of Kurukshetra, Shikhandi did become the reason of Bhisma’s death.

The book tells the story of famous characters of Indian Mythology who have been in the brackets of LGBTQ at a particular stage in their respective lives. eg Arjuna, Indra, Narada, Aravan, Ila, Samavan, Vishnu, Samba and many more.

But who is this book about in reality?

Well the Author dedicates it to all those out there and all those in between.

Hindu Mythology & Queer Stories


Author writes that in Hindu mythology the patriarchy, the idea that men are superior to women was, invented. Hindu Mythology constantly references to ‘queerness’ as the idea that questions the notion of maleness and femaleness. Queer stories are not restricted to Hindu Mythology. There’s a line in the book mentioned from the Vedas “ Vikruti Evam Prakriti” which can be translated as ‘All things queer are also part of nature.’

The Third Gender in India


Author constantly clarifies that he writes this book not seeking any approval or judgement but to give voice to an ‘unheard community’ in our society. India’s third gender, the transgender, the ‘hijras’, have a peculiar clap to make sure the world does not render their queerness invisible.

Gender, Sex and Sexuality


Author explains that the term ‘sex’ is biological, ‘gender’ as a term is used to express how biology is expressed in our society. As the author writes ‘sexuality’ deals with all the aspects of gender, orientation, identity, psychology and sociology associated with it.

Questions & Cultural Filters


The book raised several questions like..

 1.)What is so distinctive about being a totally masculine male and a totally feminine female? 

2.)What is it? Is it a ‘cultural filter’ that blocks millions of wailing voices for help? Or is it just ignorance seeking to be bliss?

3.) How can celibate men decide the basis of relationship anyone can have, when they themselves are devoid of any kind of attachment?

The Takeaway from the Book


 “Shikhandi and the other tales they don’t tell you” by Devdutt Pattanaik questions issues regarding treatment of queer community in the mythology and society. The Author puts a logical reason and argument basing Hindu mythology.Difference has to be accepted and appreciated. Last but not the least just to remind you......Whenever you are at a traffic signal and you see and hear a ‘hijra’ a eunuch clapping, trying to grab your attention, do remember it’s not really their way to beg... but a cry for help of an ignored and discriminated community.


Thursday, July 16, 2020

Ikigai - The Japanese Secret to a Long & Happy Life - A Book Review


Ikigai – The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life

-by Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles



The tiny blue book lying in the long shelf of the bestsellers turned out to be the best books I have read till date. The name sounds peculiar and intriguing but its message is simple and genuine.

What is Ikigai ?


Ikigai = Purpose of Life, Your reason for existence




Ikigai falls somewhere in between our passion, mission, vocation and profession. Did it sound a bit complicated? Here is something to help you out…

The book begins with an island Okinawa where there are around 24.5 over the age of 100 for 100,000 inhabitants – way more than the global average.

It is all about the “art of being busy.” The Authors mention ten rules in the book in order to live a long and peaceful life.

10 Simple Rules of Ikigai

1.)Stay active,don’t retire
2.)Take it slow
3.)Don’t fill your stomach
4.) Surround yourself with good friends
5.) Get in shape for your next birthday
6.) Smile
7.) Reconnect with nature
8.) Give Thanks
9.) Live in the moment
10.)Follow your Ikigai

Key features of the book:


Little bit of Stress is good for you ….?



Authors clearly mention that stress is harmful to human beings but they do state that little bit of stress can keep you going. It will help you stay fit and active in your life.


Uncover the meaning of life



Life and its secrets are countless but finding a semblance to it is important. Life can mean different things to different people but it should mean something. Pursuing that meaning is important.


Find your Flow




If you find your purpose in life, you are well acquainted with your ikigai then you should just go for it. Do not run or shy away just go for it. Authors talk about a few techniques that could help you find your flow.


Diet & Movements



A healthy, happy, long life is not possible without following a proper routine that comprises of both diet and exercise. The book mentions okinawa’s miracle diet and other diet practices to keep you active all day. Yoga, Radio Taiso, Tai chi, Sun Salutation ( Surya Namaskara) and Qigong have been mentioned as the exercises/practices to go along with the ikigai diet.


Resilience and Wabi-Sabi




Resilience is our ability to deal with setbacks. A little restraint is necessary to grow in life as it helps us in correcting our mistakes and brings out a better chance at decision making in life. Wabi- Sabi a simple Japanese concept that vouches for acceptance of imperfection and flaws. There are flaws in the nature but even with the flaws, nature is our portal for inspiration.


Conclusion


It’s a quick and easy book to read,full of life lessons. This book is the chicken soup to your soul. Readers do give it a shot! 



 - Meenakshi Sinha 
     (Avid Reader)







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